The Surprising Trick to Heating Up Your Sex Life

Tricks to Heat Up Your Sex Life

Sad but true, even the most amazing relationships can take a bit of a hit in the first years after a child is born. Even once you’re recovered enough from childbirth to have sex again, you might be too exhausted from night feedings and providing the near constant attention an infant needs. Later on, the energy it takes chasing down your toddler, or even carting your school-age kiddo and his buddies to soccer practice could leave you too frazzled and busy to connect with your partner and truly focus on your love life.

That said, science has proven one awesome new way to improve your sex life after having kids. The key, apparently, is to make sure you share child care equally with your partner, which, if you think about it, makes a ton of sense. First off, neither one of you will be too wiped out from day-in-day-out child care to have a satisfying time between the sheets. Secondly? Sharing responsibilities not only helps prevent resentment that can drive couples apart, but it also gives you more to bond over, which can bring a whole new layer to your romantic life.

My advice to all parents is to make sure the bond between you and your partner remains as strong and happy as ever. Don’t let a little spit up on your shirt get in the way of sexy times! Just because you’ve added the role of mother to the long list of hats you wear doesn’t mean you’re suddenly no longer a vibrant, excited, sexual being. Yes, getting a sitter for date night might cost a few extra dollars here and there, and that might seem like a frivolous expense, but when you compare it to the cost of potentially drifting away from your partner and having an dissatisfying love life – it’s worth it. Feeling all of that and feeling overwhelmed, perhaps give your partner a gentle reminder that helping you more during the day may actually work out better for them later in the day, if you know what I mean! And last but not least, communicate. It is far better to say why you don’t feel like getting saucy, than giving them the cold shoulder. Your partner can get insecure too you know, with too much rejection!