Gender Selection

Going through infertility is so painful and only Chrissy Teigen knows what it has felt like on this journey. To have to face the possibility of never becoming a mother, losses and heart break,  and then when you do become pregnant, knowing this may be your only child, it is hard for us all to judge Chrissy Teigen for choosing to do Gender Selection.  Gender Selection is legal and allows the parents to choose the gender of their baby during the process of IVF.  Like many American couples experiencing infertility and going through IVF, this choice will have been presented to Chrissy Teigen as well as many others, such as Genetic Testing.  Believe me, having gone through it there are many many big questions that couples have to make decisions about at a very stressful and anxious point of your life. Chrissy Teigen has been vocal about the fact that she chose YES to Gender Selection.

I’m not upset at Chrissy, she is human after all, and none of us know everything that went into her journey or her decision. However, I am upset that gender selection is legal, with the exception of cases that it is medically necessary.  I think it more constructive to push for change and new laws be passed by the government to catch up with medical advancement, than to get angry  at Chrissy Teigen, who, lets face it, has just been through a heart breaking journey, and now is finally living her dream of becoming a mother.  Do we really have to rain so much on her parade?

Choosing the sex of a baby means messing with a very delicate balance of a population of men and women. Mess with that, and it is impossible to predict what the results will be. We have seen in places like China that there have been terrible consequences to the limitations on the number of children they can have. Often a male baby being favored, there have been disastrous consequences for many baby girls and if gender selection was easily available I imagine there could be a population issue of a male dominance and who knows what would be the result: Good or bad!

Clearly, we are not China but we are also not a nation free of sexual bias or personal preference.  And, we are a nation of individuals that don’t always make a choice that is better for the whole of society, rather than for the individual/family, and nor do I expect us to do so all the time.  This is why we need laws, regulation that help keep our delicate balance in effect and don’t allow individuals the ability to make decisions that could drastically effect our future.  At least, not until far more research has been conducted.

I am not mad at Chrissy, I am mad that it is legal to choose the baby’s gender unless for medical reasons. I also know now, what Chrissy doesn’t know yet. and that is as a mother, once you are holding your baby in your arms, you truly don’t love boy over girl or girl over boy, you just love that they are here, happy and healthy. In my opinion, just my humble opinion, not a miracle to mess with.